Pet care consequences for kids. When a child neglects a pet (instead of a litter box), have a consequence ready.
Maybe the other siblings can be paid to do the neglected chore out of the delinquent child's allowance.
Maybe TV and gaming privileges are lost for a week. Perhaps the kid has to do extra chores to compensate for Mom taking over the task. But there have to be consequences.
Try the Tom Sawyer fence approach for pet care consequences: Make pet care look fun. Making walking the dog or brushing the cat seem like a privilege they have to earn.
This works in households with several siblings sharing an animal. Instead of issuing threats or whining, help kids come up with solutions.
Sometimes, they cannot care for a pet because they have band practice or they're going to camp. Fill in or let them hire a sibling. If siblings have their pets, maybe they could switch off.
Try to make it their problem, but help them find a solution. And if their solution is you, help them figure out how they can make it up to you.
Work it out like a trade of labor. Wash your car, perhaps? Do the day's laundry?
It's your call, but make sure they do make it up to you, or pretty soon, you'll be the only one caring for the animal—and that's probably not why you agreed to bring the pet home.
For future reference: It helps to clarify the costs and responsibilities the animal entails before you agree to a pet. Have a serious talk with your child.
Discuss who's going to do what, and when. Discuss pet care consequences for noncompliance. Draw up a contract spelling out the following:
Do not make giving up the pet a consequence of your child's not caring for it. You are only teaching her that animals are dispensable.
Do you want her to get rid of you later on when she loses interest? Once acquired, pets are part of the family unless someone develops pet allergies or other medical conditions or the animal starts biting. Pets are a serious commitment for the whole family.
Learning that love requires commitment, care, and sacrifices is probably one of the best life lessons you can share with your child. It all starts with enforcing pet care consequences.